Friday 12 April 2013

Fun and frustration

It happened.  I got away for three days and nights for some relaxation time.  The first night we stayed at the casino.  They had amazing ribs for supper and I lost no money - I used what they gave me and that's it.  Monday morning we woke up to heavy wet snow.  Why must it always snow when I want to go with my mom and why is it still snowing into April?  The roads were fantastically plowed though and we made our way to Duluth.  The shopping as pretty good and I found alot of good deals and things we can't get here that the kids would enjoy.  Decent weather there and none of the snow they called for - until the day after we arrived home.  I stayed well under my limit for what I could bring home too!  We went to Red lobster for supper and wow - not sure where we fit it all.  I had a lovely pasta with crap and lobster sauce plus two lobster tails.  My mom had two kinds of shrimp, a lobster tail and crab legs.  I sat very patiently as she carefully got ALL the crab out of each one.  I'm impressed on how precise she is - she didn't miss a bit.  That was my birthday gift to her.  This was the fun part of the week.

When I arrived home Duncan ran up and gave me kisses after the kids.  He is our German Sheppard.  Then came a beagle to give me kisses and boy can he kiss.  That's Max - a dog I had no idea we were getting.  It was rushed to surprise me.  To me it was $300 out the window - he came with nothing, not fixed and one of the most irresponsible purchases possible.  No thought on how we would afford his vet bills or food or anything else with him.  I admit he is a cute dog but one we didn't need.  He came from income tax and a little more money because my father was told by the buyer "it's my money and I can do what I want with it".  Problem is this person doesn't have an income more than the family bills to buy the extras for a dog so now that has to come out of my extra, which I don't think is fair.  I have notes to say that I don't have to work because my husband doesn't want to be home alone.  I chose to so I could have extra money to do things and life a little easier.  We each pay half the bills and that uses up all "his" money plus what I get for the kids. The luxuries of eating out, going to a movie, shopping all comes from what I get from work.  I think owning a pet should be a joint decision and equal paying for it and it's not now.  It's so frustrating.  I hate feeling like this but I do and it happens all too often lately.  Feeling frustrated with my life, feeling like I can't do anything for myself without stuff like this happening (last time my charge cards were racked up when I was gone 18 months ago), feeling like I have 5 kids most of the time and not 4.  I want to have 2 responsible adults in the house to go with the 4 kids, 2 dogs and 3 cats.


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